How many of us went out during pregnancy and spent an absolute fortune then days after baby arrived were wondering how on earth we didn’t have in our hands the most basic of things? Just me? Here I’ve compiled a list of the ten newborn essentials we used in the first few months of Dexter’s life.
1. Being off work on maternity isn’t as fun as it seems. I’ve been off work now for nine months due to a mixture of maternity and sick leave and it isn’t all it is pictured. Hands up who thought they would spend their time swanning around the shops, sitting in Costa drinking coffee, walking baby around the park and generally having lots of free time to do whatever you wanted. The reality is that you are very lucky if you manage to put on some make up and leave the house on any given day.
If I had a quid for every time a mum told me that her baby hates tummy time, I’d treat myself to a night away in a hotel so I could have a full night’s sleep! But seriously, all babies start off hating tummy time. Why would you want to be put on the floor on your belly when you could be curled up on mummy’s warm chest in the fœtal position?
In the first few weeks of baby’s life they will be going through the ‘fourth trimester’, trying to adapt to life in the outside world. During this phase it is near enough impossible to get anything done: cooking, cleaning, sleeping, washing (clothes and yourself!) all of these things go out of the window. This lasts for approximately six to eight weeks. You know when it has come to an end because you start to think to yourself ‘I’m finally getting the hang of this thing’ hardly daring to believe it could be true.
The few days before Dexter arrived are kind of a blur. I remember on the Thursday prior to his arrival my friend came over to see me and I started with a migraine whilst she was there. I had suffered terribly with migraines prior to getting pregnant, having them on average every other month, but since falling pregnant I’d only had two. This was a particularly bad one impairing my vision and I was unable to think straight. I took both paracetamol and ibruprofen, thinking what is the harm at this point and drank a can of coke. My friend said to me a few weeks later that I looked so uncomfortable and ill she was sure I was about to go into labour that day!
It’s my opinion that the better a baby sleeps during the day, the better he will sleep at night. When Dexter was first born and he was sleeping all day, I used to try and keep him awake thinking it would mean I would get longer at night – big mistake!
Dexter has always been a relatively good sleeper so he has to take most of the credit as to how and why he naps so well, but I also like to put it down to my research and routine I adhere to every day. He slept through the night from around 9 weeks old and only very occasionally now wakes in the night.
Welcome to Dexter’s 3 month update:
- Dexter is now moving freely in his cot, he rolls onto his side and onto his front and he’s able to get from one end to the other, into our bed and turn himself 180 degrees by scooching.
- I’ve had one real life giggle from him when I was changing him this week and singing but he hasn’t repeated it since.
- He also rolled from front to back this week during tummy time. I put him on his tummy and when he pushed up with one hand I rolled him myself. I then put him back and lay down on the floor opposite him and he did it again three times but all by himself. Not managed to get him to do it again yet though! He has rolled back to front and front to back from his cot onto our bed, however gravity and the bouncy bed definitely facilitated in that so it doesn’t really count.
- Dexter drinks 6oz five times a day- 7.30am, 11, 2, 5 and 8. We started skipping the midnight feed this week and he has slept through.
- He goes to sleep at 8ish and sleeps through until 7. Although he has been known to lie in til gone 9 and last Sunday I had to wake him up!
- He had his 12 week injections this week and was a superstar!
- This week he visited Skipton and screamed the car down so bad we had to pull over. We thought he wanted feeding but when we got him out of his car seat he just wanted a laugh and a play. After a few cuddles he went back in his car seat and off we went!
- He loves his hands and they’re in his mouth constantly. He enjoys looking at them and reaching out to daddy.
- His favourite toy is still his jangly zebra but he also likes his firefly and his white jangly bear. I got him a foil blanket this week but he’s not too sure on that yet
For Dexter’s previous updates, click here.